When the word date or dating is mentioned, most people conjure up images of singles who are meeting new people and looking for that special someone. Rarely do we think of dating as something to do with a spouse or long-term partner.
Many relationships can become routine and mundane when couples stop actively dating each other. Giving your relationship only small amounts of time can potentially lead to its demise. At the beginning of a relationship, it’s very easy to be intentional. But if you don’t continue to pay attention to it over time, it’s easy to get into a relationship rut.
The best relationships require effort and during this time of isolation and quarantine, they may need a little more attention in order to not deplete your Love Bank Account.
How to Create Special Moments While Confined
With the added stress and anxiety of COVID-19, it’s easy to be in a survival mode of just trying to get through the day. There’s also the issue of trying to create some romance or couple-time if you also have children in the home.
Don’t be discouraged. It may take some extra effort and creativity, but your relationship is worth it!
The Solution: Plan Surprise Dates Weekly!
I’m a fan of “surprise” dates. In fact, I recommend this to my clients. Take turns each week planning surprise dates for each other. You plan a date for your partner this week and have them plan a surprise date for you next week.
The great thing about taking turns planning dates for each other is that you eliminate the age-old question, “What do you want to do tonight?”
This is the secret sauce of the surprise date: just tell your partner when to be ready and what to wear and there’s no debate or resistance. The addition of novelty and doing something different together will definitely increase connection and romance—much like when you first started dating.
Easy At-Home Date Ideas:
Scavenger Hunt
There are lots of ways to do a scavenger hunt for your honey. You can put one together easily last minute. Check out this blog Easy Romantic Scavenger Hunt for more details.
Create a Romantic Tent
Sometimes it’s fun to be a kid again and do silly things, like creating a romantic tent. You probably already have everything you need around the house.
Cooking Class
Open a bottle of wine and have some fun in your kitchen! Video conference chefs who live in Italy, Thailand, Japan, New Orleans and more for a private cooking experience! You will swap stories, get personalized cooking tips, and cook your way to an epic 3-course meal. Check Out The Chef & the Dish to book your session today.
If you don’t have your next date-night planned, just go ahead and do it. It is a necessity for a happy and life-affirming relationship. Sittercity parents can get their first month of Date Night of the Month Club for free* when they use the code “SITTERCITY” at checkout. It is a necessity for a happy and life-affirming relationship. Remember to keep the activity a mystery and only advise the time to be ready and dress code. Anticipation creates desire and desire creates deeper intimacy. That is always a winning combination in deepening your relationship.
Dana Lam is the Author and Co-Founder of Surprise Date Challenge. Her mission is to assist couples to keep the romance and passion alive one date at a time. This is facilitated with the Date of the Month Club. Each month SDC emails a localized date night recommendation, an at-home date night activity, printable invitations, gift ideas, and conversation starter questions designed to reconnect. At this time, they’re focusing on highlighting their at-home date night solutions. Your first month is FREE* with limited time offer code “SITTERCITY”.
*The first month free is given as a $20 credit at checkout with code SITTERCITY. This can be applied to the monthly, 6-month, or one-year subscription. Subscriptions can be canceled anytime by emailing, Hello@SurpriseDateChallenge.com.
